Category: Brian’s Journey

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A Heartwarming Mother’s Day Gathering: Games and Family Joy

Written May 13, 2024

Hello Dear Readers,

Yesterday turned out to be a remarkably successful day, far surpassing the achievements of the day before. The credit goes largely to setting more realistic goals. The highlight was our visit to my mother’s house for a delightful Mother’s Day celebration with her and my sister. It’s a day that had been in the works for months, planned by my sister and my wife. In fact, she had selected her gift for my mother three months in advance, coordinating the details with my sister to ensure everything went well.

Mother’s Day is a special occasion in our family, not just for celebrating our mothers but also as a time for family bonding over games, a tradition we all cherish. Our family adores gaming together—it’s our way of connecting and creating memories. Whether it’s board games or card games like Bridge when the extended family joins, these playful competitions are a core part of our gatherings.

This time, we played “Shadows Over Camelot,” a board game that’s a favorite at many of our family events. My niece, who has recently begun to join in on the board game fun, chose me as her partner. She was adamant about playing King Arthur, embracing the role with enthusiastic determination. Peeking at my wife’s character choice, I saw she had picked Sir Percival. Despite her claim of never having played this board game before, her excitement was palpable. She has always been enamored with the Arthurian legends, and her eyes lit up as she spoke about the characters. “If I could, I’d choose to be Sir. Lancelot,” she confessed, her fascination with the knight’s tale evident in her voice. The cooperative game was filled with laughter and strategic collaboration, making it all the more enjoyable.

Gatherings like these remind me of the importance of family. Seeing my mother’s joyful expression as she spent time with us reminded me of the simple pleasures in life. The ease of laughter, the shared strategies over game boards, and the warmth of being surrounded by loved ones all came together to create a memorable day.

Such occasions are precious, not just for the fun we have but also for the opportunity they provide to reaffirm our bonds. As we delve into adventures on a game board, we also strengthen our connections with each other, making each game not just a play for victory but a celebration of our family’s unity and love.

Ultimately, what makes days like these genuinely remarkable isn’t just the games we play or the food we enjoy but the company we keep. The joy of being together, sharing stories, and supporting one another is what Mother’s Day—and indeed every family gathering—is all about. We cherish these moments, filled with laughter and companionship, long after the day is over, and they remind us of the enduring power of family ties.

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Navigating Life’s Little Hurdles: A Weekend of Plans and Adjustments

Written May 9, 2024

Hello Dear Readers,

Sometimes, life throws a wrench into our plans. Just this morning, a big storm rolled in unexpectedly, thwarting my wife’s intention to go for her morning run. Now, I find myself eyeing the gloomy skies with a hint of concern about my own plans for the day—yard maintenance. The thought of the storm leaving the ground too soggy for mowing lingers in my mind. I suppose I’ll discover the truth when I venture outside in a couple of hours.

This weekend promises to be busy. We’re planning another trip to the farmer’s market, a beloved ritual that brightens our Saturday mornings. However, this Sunday is also Mother’s Day, so our schedule is packed with family activities. Given the day’s full itinerary, I’ll likely have to forgo my usual weekly 10k run. It’s a sacrifice for family time, but one I’m willing to make.

The primary allure of this weekend’s market visit is undoubtedly the strawberries—a seasonal treat that both my wife and I eagerly anticipate. However, there remains a small detail I need to confirm with her: the frequency of our visits to the market. Though these trips are temporary breaks from routine, I need to understand how many Saturdays we’ll spend browsing through stalls so I can adjust my running schedule accordingly. Her plans will dictate how I manage my training days.

Speaking of running, I’ve found returning to my pre-vacation pace challenging. The speed isn’t the same despite sticking to my regular running sessions. My wife, ever the voice of reason, reminds me that numerous factors influence running pace. She lists body condition, stress levels, and even external elements like wind or temperature as possible reasons for the fluctuations. “Don’t dwell on the pace of a single day,” she advises, suggesting that I look at the broader trend over time. It’s comforting to hear, especially when I notice that my speed has gradually increased over extended periods. I want to trust her insights and remain hopeful I can hit the pavement later today.

As we navigate these little adjustments and prepare for the bustling weekend ahead, I am reminded of the importance of flexibility and patience. Whether it’s tweaking weekend plans to accommodate family gatherings or adjusting my running schedule to fit new commitments, the ability to adapt is key. Life, much like the weather, is unpredictable. Still, with a bit of planning and a lot of understanding, we can manage just about anything that comes our way.

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Harnessing the Power of Momentum in Everyday Tasks

Written May 8, 2024

Hello Dear Readers,

Momentum is a potent force that propels us forward, helping us conquer a plethora of tasks with increasing energy. Over the past several days, I have been riding this wave of momentum, tackling numerous tasks with a surprising vigor. Initially, my motivation was purely preventative; I did not want to let small, manageable tasks snowball into urgent, overwhelming challenges due to procrastination.

As I began to chip away at my to-do list, I decided to pair this activity with listening to audiobooks. This combination turned out to be incredibly effective. To my amazement, the more tasks I completed, the more energy I found for future tasks. This productivity cycle left me feeling quite satisfied with my accomplishments, especially yesterday when I checked off nearly everything on my list.

One of the tasks I had set for myself was to clear the back of our house from overgrown vines. Unfortunately, a bout of rain came through, slightly altering my plans. Despite this, I made significant headway and am poised to finish up tomorrow, right after I tackle the week’s mowing.

Although the day left me feeling physically drained, the sense of accomplishment I experienced was profound and overwhelmingly positive. A unique satisfaction comes from looking over a to-do list that’s been mostly conquered. It not only demonstrates what you have achieved but also clears the space for new tasks that might arise before the next surge of energy is needed.

This process of building and maintaining momentum has profound implications for task completion, personal growth, and satisfaction. By actively engaging in our daily chores and responsibilities and enhancing the experience with enjoyable activities like listening to audiobooks, we can transform seemingly mundane tasks into opportunities for learning and achievement.

What’s particularly intriguing about momentum is how it feeds into itself. The more you accomplish, the more you feel capable of accomplishing. This self-perpetuating cycle can lead us to new heights of productivity and personal fulfillment. It’s akin to a snowball rolling down a hill, gathering speed and size; as our list of completed tasks grows, so does our energy and capacity to handle more.

Moreover, breaking down tasks into manageable parts and ticking them off one by one helps reduce procrastination and make the tasks seem less daunting. Regardless of size, progress fuels our motivation and pushes us to keep moving forward.

For anyone struggling to find the drive to tackle their daily or weekly tasks, consider this approach: Start small tasks that are enjoyable to accompany the less exciting chores, and watch as your momentum builds. You might find that the energy to continue will come naturally, and your productivity will soar as a result.

In conclusion, the power of momentum is an extraordinary tool in our personal and professional lives. It transforms our approach to tasks from tedious to engaging, energizing activity, promoting continuous personal growth and efficiency. Harness this energy, and you’ll be surprised at how much you can achieve and how good it will make you feel.

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The Delicate Balance of Post-Vacation Tasks: A Personal Take

Written 5/7

Hello Dear Readers,

Returning from vacation often brings a mixed bag of emotions. The joy of experiencing new places and creating memories with loved ones is invariably tinged with the inevitable return to the mundane tasks of daily life. As I find myself back home, the reality of several pending tasks swiftly pulls me from my holiday high back to the ground.

Today, my to-do list is longer than usual, brimming with those small yet pesky tasks I’ve postponed. These tasks, while minor, have a way of accumulating, especially after a vacation when we’ve been busier than ever. Thankfully, these tasks haven’t escalated to critical levels yet, but it’s only a matter of time. With this looming deadline, I’ve resolved to tackle them head-on before they grow into urgent problems.

Unlike my wife, who meticulously documents every task in her notes, I tend to keep a mental checklist. She intersperses these tasks between her larger projects, methodically working through her list. In contrast, my approach is to elevate the urgency of these tasks, as I did yesterday, to barrel through them with momentum fueled by a self-imposed sense of urgency. This method differs from my wife’s more systematic strategy but suits my style better.

Despite their small scale, these tasks are significant enough to eat into my leisure time. However, the prospect of clearing them off my mental slate is appealing. It promises a return to tranquility, free from the nagging reminders of unfinished business lurking in my mind.

The beauty of handling these post-vacation tasks lies in the subtle balance between urgency and importance. Some tasks require minimal mental effort, which allows me to multitask effectively. I often find myself listening to an audiobook while sorting through these tasks. This not only makes the process less tedious but also somewhat enjoyable. It’s a clever way to blend productivity with leisure, turning a potentially dull routine into an enriching experience.

Handling these tasks also involves a shift in mindset. On days like today, when the list seems daunting, I adjust the importance I attach to these tasks. By mentally categorizing them as more critical, I create a sense of urgency that helps me push through them quickly. This psychological trick not only accelerates my progress but also enhances my focus.

Moreover, my approach to task management reflects a broader philosophy of life: adaptability. While my wife’s methodical approach has merits, my approach’s flexibility allows me to adjust as needed, responding to the demands of the moment without becoming entrenched in a rigid system. It’s about finding what works best on a personal level and leveraging it to maintain productivity and balance.

Ultimately, the goal is to catch up on these minor yet necessary maintenance tasks. Completing them not only clears the physical space around us but also declutters our minds. It’s about restoring order and making room for new experiences without the overhead of unresolved chores.

As I continue my day, ticking tasks off my mental list, I’m reminded of the importance of staying on top of these small responsibilities. They might not be the most thrilling part of my day, but strategically managing them ensures these tiny tasks don’t accumulate into a daunting backlog. It’s a crucial part of maintaining my physical space and mental peace, allowing me to fully enjoy the relaxation after all the work is done.

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A Day Full of Strawberries and Tofu: Adventures in Homemade Delights

Written 5/4

Hello Dear Readers,

This morning, our usual routine took a delightful detour. Here in Nashville, Tennessee, we’re smack in the middle of strawberry season—a time my wife and I eagerly anticipate each year. Bright and early, we set out to our local farmer’s market to acquire strawberries to make homemade jelly.

My wife is particularly fond of strawberries, which are directly from local farmers. She swears they are infinitely sweeter than those found in supermarket aisles. We usually purchase them by the gallon bucket, necessitating immediate action to freeze or preserve them to avoid spoilage. Although we typically manage to get two buckets, today, we restrained ourselves to just one, as our freezer is already brimming.

Part of today’s agenda for my wife was to embark on a new culinary project—making tofu. She’s planning to document this endeavor on her blog. I encourage anyone interested in DIY soybean crafts to look at her upcoming post. 

In preparation, she picked up jalapeno peppers to add a zesty twist to our strawberry jam, turning it into a spicy concoction. The preparations for this fiery strawberry jam began last night, ensuring we were all set for today’s jam-making session.

In addition to the strawberries, we also acquired soybeans for our first attempt at making tofu. My wife has spent considerable time researching tofu preparation, and her excitement was palpable—akin to her enthusiasm when we first experimented with making Kombucha at home. She procured an impressive 50 pounds of soybeans, planning to hone her tofu-making skills through ample practice.

The day’s unusual events pushed back my journal writing schedule considerably. Part of me even toyed with skipping my journal entry entirely. Still, eventually, I carved out a slot in my day to maintain this important personal ritual.

Today has been a testament to the joys of embracing local produce and the rewarding challenge of homemade food projects. Whether it’s the sweet burst of locally sourced strawberries or the intricate process of tofu making, each activity adds a unique flavor to our lives, enriching our daily routine with new textures and tastes.

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A Night of Forgotten Steps: An Encounter with Sleepwalking

Written 5/2

Hello Dear Readers,

Last evening unfolded with a most unusual occurrence. As usual, I retired for the night at our standard bedtime. The evening routine was methodical, almost mechanical, in its execution—a necessary ritual since the stroke that urged a restructuring of my daily habits. But at 2:00 AM, I awoke to find myself standing in our bathroom, bewildered and piecing together fragments of memory that suggested I had been elsewhere in the house mere moments ago.

The sensation was disorienting. Had I neglected my bedtime rituals? The usual checklist ran through my mind in a haze. Did I remember to brush my teeth? A rush of confusion overwhelmed me as though a veil had been draped over my memories. Soon, a small but significant discovery alleviated one of my concerns: I was wearing my mouthguard. This small cue hinted at the likelihood that I had completed at least part of my nightly regimen.

This practice of linking tasks, a method instilled by my occupational therapist post-stroke, has been a lifeline. It involves a simple chain of nighttime preparations: laying out sleepwear, setting aside clothes for the following day, brushing teeth, and finally, the mouthguard. Each step is meticulously planned to ensure everything is remembered.

However, the mystery deepened as I questioned whether I had managed other essential evening tasks. Had I taken my medication? Was the programmable coffee pot set for the morning? Driven by a need for reassurance, I checked both. They were in order, to my relief, yet this brought little comfort against the nagging confusion that clouded my mind.

In my semi-awake state, I grappled with two possibilities. First, I had been sleepwalking, wandering about the house in a nocturnal haze until a flicker of awareness returned in the bathroom. The alternative was perhaps even more bizarre—a vivid dream in which I moved through familiar spaces in our home, only to awaken when I reached the bathroom.

Each theory seemed plausible yet left much unexplained. As I slipped back into bed, careful not to disturb my sleeping wife, the strangeness of the night’s events hung heavily in the air. The experience was perplexing, to say the least. I lay there, a mix of concern and curiosity stirring within, pondering the depths of the human mind and its mysterious workings during the hours meant for rest.

Regardless of the proper explanation, the event poignantly reminded me of the complexities introduced by my health condition. The mechanisms I had put in place to safeguard against forgetfulness had held up. Yet, the unexpected venture into the night showed that surprises lurk even in well-planned routines.

As dawn approached, with the first hints of morning light filtering through our curtains, I found solace in the normalcy that daylight brought. Yet, the night’s journey left a lasting impression, a reminder of the delicate balance we maintain as we navigate the challenges that life and health cast in our path.

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The Joys and Comforts of Returning Home from Vacation

Written 4/30/2024

Hello Dear Readers,

After a delightful break, it’s refreshing to be back in the comfort of our home. As invigorating as our getaway was, there’s a unique pleasure in returning to familiar surroundings and the daily rhythms of life. There’s nothing quite like the first night back in your own bed, complete with your favorite pillow and the comforting heft of a weighted blanket. Plus, it’s a relief to wake up on my own terms, without the early morning serenades from roosters, which was charming but less than restful!

Despite the fun and adventure, I did find myself missing the comforts of home, especially the way we manage the temperature indoors. This isn’t about how the weather back in Tennessee was any better but how we regulate our indoor climate, which stands out particularly during travels. Whether we’re headed to places known for their sweltering summers, like Florida or Tennessee, public places often seem to overcompensate with their air conditioning. This has been a consistent discomfort for me. I struggle with regulating my body temperature—too chilled indoors and overwhelmed by the heat outside.

My wife firmly believes that such extreme fluctuations in temperature aren’t just uncomfortable but could be harmful to our health. She argues that frequent, sharp changes in temperature force our bodies to adjust, potentially straining our autonomic nerves constantly. This concern is more than theoretical for us; following a stroke I experienced, maintaining a steady, “natural” temperature has become essential for my comfort. My wife’s approach to managing our home’s environment—keeping it at a steady 65°F (about 18°C) in winter and a mild 74°F (around 23°C to 24°C) in summer—has been a blessing. It has made me particularly sensitive to and appreciative of our home’s stable climate.

I find the stark contrast between the overly chilled interiors of many public spaces during summer and the excessively heated ones in winter increasingly troublesome. While businesses might think they are providing relief from the outside temperatures, the severity of the indoor cooling can be quite jarring. This is particularly poignant for someone like me, whose ability to adapt to temperature changes has been compromised.

Our recent vacation was yet another reminder of the value of the carefully controlled climate we’ve cultivated at home. It underscores how significant seemingly mundane aspects of our environment are to our comfort and health. As we resume our regular life, I am grateful not only for the experiences and memories we gathered while away but also for the renewed appreciation for the tranquility and stability of our home.

In conclusion, while vacations are a wonderful escape from the norm, they also sharpen our awareness of the comforts and conveniences of our everyday lives that we often take for granted. Returning home has not only given me back my comfortable sleeping arrangements but also renewed my gratitude for our ability to control our living environment, keeping it as welcoming and healthy as possible.

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Animal Encounters in the Florida Keys: A Vacation to Remember

Written 4/29/2024

Hello Dear Readers,

Recently, my wife and I wrapped up an enchanting vacation in the Florida Keys, a destination teeming with scenic beauty and a fascinating array of wildlife. Each encounter left a memorable mark on our journey, painting our experience with strokes of wonder and delight.

Upon our arrival, one of the first surprises was the chickens roaming freely around the Keys. It seemed every street was bustling with these semi-wild birds. Curiosity piqued, we inquired with locals and learned about their intriguing history. Brought over by Cubans for cockfighting, these chickens were later released to avoid a tax imposed on kept poultry after the sport was banned. With few natural predators, the chickens now thrive in the urban environment, dodging only the occasional car.

Our adventure continued with a visit to the Marathon Key aquarium, which offers interactive “experiences” with marine life. For a nominal fee, we were equipped with a cup of food and a tool to feed animals across various exhibits. The highlight for us was feeding the stingrays. 

Accustomed to human interaction, they swarmed the edge of their tank with the enthusiasm of flappy-hungry puppies whenever someone approached. It was a delightful sight, and their friendly antics, splashing joyfully for fish or shrimp treats, gave us a glimpse into their playful nature. We fed them twice, charmed by their eager behavior and the gentle flap of their wings against the water.

The final leg of our animal tour led us to the Hemingway House in Key West, once the residence of the famed author Ernest Hemingway and now a museum and sanctuary for his feline descendants. Nearly 60 cats live there, many bearing the genetic trait of polydactyly, which gives them an extra toe on each paw. This unique characteristic added an extra layer of fascination to our visit.

Interestingly, the house’s location in a city populated by chickens leads to occasional stand-offs between the two species. Both are protected, limiting how much their human caretakers can intervene. The strategy mainly involves keeping chickens out with a fence, hoping they stay on one side. At the same time, the cats contentedly remain on the other.

This journey to the Florida Keys was more than just a getaway; it was an immersion into a unique ecosystem where humans, animals, and history intertwine. Each encounter—whether with the historic chickens, the playful stingrays, or Hemingway’s extraordinary cats—gifted us with narratives to carry back home, enriching our lives with their simplicity and beauty.

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A First Taste of Adventure: Discovering Bubble Tea

Written 4/23/2024

Hello Dear Readers,

Today, my wife and I are set to explore a new culinary delight: bubble tea. This drink is something neither of us had sampled before, and we decided it was high time we changed that.

A few weeks back, my wife burst into my room with a question that caught me off guard: “Have you ever tried bubble tea?” When I admitted my inexperience, she excitedly proclaimed, “Brian, we have to try bubble tea—it looks so yummy!” Curiously, although she had seen bubble tea before, her sudden urge to try it puzzled me. But before I could inquire further, she explained, “Brian, I watched someone enjoying it on YouTube, and the joy on her face was infectious. I just had to find out what was making her smile like that.”

Interestingly, she hadn’t even seen a bubble tea ad. My wife usually listens to YouTube in the background rather than watching any of the channels, so for her to watch someone actively enjoying their drink was unusual.

After her revelation, she got into planning mode. Planning is crucial for her, even something as simple as trying a new drink. She dove into researching and soon came back with options for three bubble tea shops, just in case one was closed.

Next, she had to sift through her busy schedule to find the right time for our bubble tea adventure. She’s been swamped with preparing corporate taxes and budgets these days, so her free time is precious. She believes in picking the perfect moment for new experiences, especially when they can offer a respite from her work stress. Sometimes, her meticulous planning reminds me of Steris from the “Mistborn 2nd Era” series—before going digital, she used to carry her hefty planner everywhere.

Today, she declared, was the ideal day for our bubble tea expedition. The timing felt right because we planned to travel to the Keys tomorrow. I was more than happy to accompany her. When she sets her mind on something, she follows through, and I must admit, my curiosity about this drink has grown. Bubble tea may become our next favorite treat.

In our shared quest for new experiences, these little adventures not only add a dash of excitement to our lives but also bring us closer together. The anticipation is palpable as we prepare to step out and taste our first bubble tea. These moments, filled with simple joys and discoveries, enrich our days and create cherished memories. Maybe it’s the thrill of the unknown or the delight in sharing these firsts with each other, but whatever the outcome, today promises to be a delightful exploration of flavor and fun.

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Pushing Through: A Runner’s Resolve Amid Challenges

Written 4/17/2024

Hello Dear Readers,

Even for someone as seasoned as myself, running can sometimes become more difficult. Lately, I’ve been caught up in the marathon-like task of mowing the lawn because our vacation to Key West is fast approaching. Living in Tennessee, the grass grows exuberantly, even in what should be the mild month of April. Despite feeling physically drained, there’s still a sense of pride in how much I accomplished with the lawn yesterday.

I’m not sure if my fatigue is due to my kidney condition or just the physical toll from overexertion, or perhaps it’s a combination of both. Before my stroke, I was never truly dedicated to running; it was more my wife’s passion than mine. Hence, it was unclear if my kidney condition contributed to my increased fatigue. Yet, even on such draining days, I lace up my shoes and hit the pavement. Running feels laborious, almost zombie-like in pace, to the point where I overslept this morning.

Despite this, I’ve committed to running, a pledge I made years ago. My wife has always believed that keeping active is essential for my brain’s recovery. It’s something I’ve come to rely on, a trusty routine to propel me forward. The weather, according to my app, promises a warmer day than I’d prefer for a comfortable run. Although still weary, I managed to catch up on some sleep. Maybe today, I’ll just be a few seconds off my usual pace.

Running holds another significant place in my schedule today. This week is our last before the vacation, and there won’t be much running while we’re away. Despite how my body feels, the anticipation of our trip and the break from my daily runs gives me a reason to push a little harder today.